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September 10th World Suicide Prevention Day

Posted on 28 August, 2017 at 17:50 Comments comments (0)
WHO THINKS ABOUT SUICIDE? September 10th is World Suicide Prevention Day. How common is it to think about suicide? About a plan to stop your life; to die and leave all of this? Do you suddenly find yourself thinking about suicide and wonder how you got there? Well, you are not alone. Many people report they think about suicide and possible plans. It is estimated that 5% of the Canadian population has thoughts of suicide at one time or another (ASIST -Crisis Intervention & Suicide Prevention Centre of BC). Does that mean we are all depressed? Or doing such a bad job of managing of our lives that we need to escape? No. We are certainly not all depressed and most people with depression do not die by suicide or think about it all the time. And no, most of us may have one or two things in our lives we are struggling with, but our life overall is normal and acceptable. Thinking about suicide may start with thinking of a way to escape difficulty, sorrow, shame or guilt. Loss of people we love, relationships, jobs and money are all possible reasons to want to escape the feeling and the problem. We are wired to find solutions to our problems and for most of we naturally reach out, talk to someone, and together we have the ability to find solutions other than death. Some people, however, do not have someone that will listen to them when they mention their thoughts of suicide as a way to end the problem. September 10th is World Suicide Prevention Day. I urge you to become aware of the commonness of thinking about suicide and seriously listen to someone that is hinting or talking about suicide, ending it all, or not having a choice. We absolutely cannot make someone suicide by asking them if they are thinking about killing themselves. Think about yourself. If you have had thoughts of suicide, it started long before someone asked about it. It was your idea and not theirs. Let us try to prevent a suicide by LISTENING to someone and their story, and trying to find a solution other than death. Talk about suicide in your life. Why did someone die? Why do I want to die? www.bgilmorecounselling.com

A Change in Perspective

Posted on 6 September, 2016 at 13:05 Comments comments (0)

Many of you that know me recognize my familiar dialogue about perspective and choice.

But what do we do with a day like today? Was it just me or was I being forced to change my total perspective on the day? Where were my choices? I still planned with my summer perspective!

I know we anticipate the day after the Labor Day weekend as one of those special days. It isn’t officially autumn, but it feels like it (and it really did today!) Big things like school get started, and smaller things like planning meetings are scheduled and posted. Most of us have something new to wear and it all feels non-leisurely and much more important and official.

However, I thought about today and planned not to change into September. I would not get up too early. I would go to my same old exercise class with my usual outfit and bag. I would walk the same route and eat the same breakfast food, etc. I was not starting any type of academic endeavour and my work responsibilities were the same as last week….August and summertime.

The day suddenly forced me to change! It was cold and wet. I had to wear a hooded jacket and rubber boots. There were other people on my walking path – going to school – and for the first time – so with great enthusiasm. Not that I was unhappy, but they were really happy. Here we were…both on the same path at the same time, feeling the same rain on our head & shoulders. I felt inconvenienced and forced to change my regular actions. They obviously felt different to me. They were in the midst of new planned and anticipated actions.

“We’re going to school” the little boy said as I started to walk around them on the path. I looked at him and his Mom and sister. They were beaming; almost laughing. I instantly thought about perspectives and wanted theirs! It looked so much more fun. I suddenly wanted to change my thoughts and actions to be like theirs. I said “ I thought so by the look of your new backpack and clothes. You look awesome!” I slowed down and walked with them for a few moments as the rain came down on all four of us together. I was suddenly beaming; almost laughing too.

I then walked on to my class and let them get to their new class. I didn’t notice the rain at all. My exercise class seemed different in some way. I thought about change and choice. All it had taken was recognizing that a new (and better) perspective was right in front of my eyes.

It only took a moment to choose to a new perspective, yet here I sit four hours later still feeling rather ‘joyous’! Moral of the story…..there is always another perspective and you have a choice to take it.